Choose your words wisely!

The other day, I had asked a friend how she was.

Their direct response: "I'm surviving. Struggling for financial independence."

My immediate emotion wow, you're having a rough time right now aren't you?

The mere fact that she chose to use the word struggle created an image of pain, difficulty and discomfort. I thought the journey to independence was suppose to fun and exciting. It's the fun and excitement that would actually drive you into action. The prospect of being free is the core of why we do what we do - isn't it?

However, when we actually take the journey to do something new, we forget that it will take time and work. In turn, we think that it's no longer fun and it turns into a struggle. When I use the word struggle, it would drive me to sit on the couch and avoid work because it's hard and no longer exciting. 

Believe it or not, the words we use to describe anything will evoke a certain emotion, behavior and ultimately an action. If you find yourself struggling with something new that you're taking on, take a moment and pay attention to the words you're using to describe it. You'll be surprised to how you're disempowering the whole situation therefore producing an undesired result, ultimately leaving you with the experience that you're a fool for doing something like this, you're a failure and you will not succeed.

To shift that experience, you must first shift what you say.